Bell, Kirsten. 2022. Silent But Deadly: The Underlying Cultural Patterns of Everyday Behaviour. Caw Press: London. Pages, pp208. ISBN: 978-1-3999-3632-3
Kirsten Bell’s ‘Silent but Deadly’ offers a fresh perspective on the often-overlooked details of everyday life. It transforms the familiar into something fascinating and reveals the subtle patters that govern our behaviour. With a sharp wit and a keen anthropological eye, Bell explores the peculiarities of human habits, unpacking their quirks and inconsistencies with humour and insight. The book is both highly engaging and intellectually rich, presenting standalone chapters that, when read together, create a compelling portrait of human behaviour. Rather than building toward a singular thesis, Bell systematically explores cultural norms, illustrating how deeply ingrained habits are shaped by historical, social and economic forces.
Bell does not observe from a distance; her analysis is deeply rooted in personal experience and keen observations as a ‘thinking anthropologist.’ Having lived in Australia, the US, South Korea, Canada, and the UK, she writes from the perspective of both an insider and an outsider. Her mobility allows her to challenge assumptions many hold as universal, offering a comparative lens on cultural habits. She is also critical of anthropology’s increasing academic insularity, contrasting it with a time when figures like Margaret Mead, Franz Boas, and Claude Lévi-Strauss made the discipline accessible to the public. Bell sees great value in bringing anthropology back to broader audience. Using humour and sharp analysis to look at the peculiarities of daily life questions like, ‘why toilet paper shortage trigger panic?,’ ‘why tipping customs vary wildly?,’ ‘why body odour is pathologized?,’ and ‘why numbers hold superstitious significance?.’ Her book is an engaging attempt to reconnect anthropology with public discourse without compromising its analytical depth.
The book consists of thirteen essays, grouped into three broad themes: body and cleanliness, classification and exchange, and symbols that blur the boundaries between nature and culture. The first five chapters examine bodily functions and hygiene. They explore topics such as farting, body odour, dental norms and surprising cultural logic behind washing machine placement. In the opening essay, Bell dissects flatulence as a social taboo. She draws from Norbert Elias’s ‘Civilising process’ to show that such taboos are not arbitrary but deeply rooted in anxieties about class, morality, and bodily control. In ‘Pits of Despair,’ she investigates how the hygiene industry manufactures insecurities that reinforces social standards that define who is considered ‘clean’ and who is marked as improper. ‘For the love of toilet paper’ traces global toilet paper hoarding frenzies, from Japan’s 1970 panic to COVID-19 shortages, its exposes the fears of modern consumer culture. ‘Going to the Dentist Bites’ explores the evolution of dental norms, showing how an obsession with straight, white teeth reflects anxieties about class and self-presentation rather than health alone. Finally, in ‘Laundry, location…,’ Bell reflects on her initial confusion upon discovering that British washing machines are often placed in kitchens, ultimately revealing how infrastructure, history, and cultural norms shape even the most seemingly mundane household choices.
The next five chapters focus on classification and exchange, they show how arbitrary distinctions shape human behaviour. In ‘A slug is a snail without a house,’ Bell examines how language influences perception, asking why people find slugs repulsive while snails are often considered charming. ‘Must love dogs,’ investigates the western obsession with pet ownership, that shows how dogs occupy contradictory roles as both family members and commodities. In ‘Menageries and Stock Markets,’ she dissects financial metaphors like bulls and bears, black swans, and canaries in coal mines. Showing how these terms falsely naturalise market behaviour. ‘The illogic of tipping’ traces the inconsistencies and questioning why we chose to tip certain professionals while others do not. In ‘Beware of colleagues bearing drinks,’ Bell deciphers the hidden social rules of pub culture, demonstrating how practices such as buying rounds establish social belonging and hierarchy.
The final three chapters explores symbols that straddle the line between nature and culture, illustrating how meaning is socially constructed. In ‘you can’t say “Cnt” in Canada,’ Bell explores how profanity functions as a cultural boundary, revealing that offensive words hold power not because of their inherent qualities but because of history and social norm. ‘Cack Hands and southpaws’ examines the historical bias against left-handedness, demonstrating how seemingly neutral bodily traits have been culturally policed. Finally, ‘The Magic of Numbers’ investigates numerical superstitions, from the western fear of 13 to the Chinese reverence for 8. It highlights how numbers become imbued with cultural meaning through storytelling and tradition. Across these chapters, bell illustrates how symbols; whether in language, the body, or mathematics shape human experiences in profound yet unnoticed ways.
What makes Silent but Deadly particularly engaging is Bell’s refusal to reduce human behaviour to simple explanations. Rather than moralising, she presents cultural patterns as they exist and allowing contradictions to emerge naturally. Her chapter on tipping, for example, reveals gratuity as less a practice of generosity and more a deeply ideological construct shaped by class and economic anxieties. Tipping, initially rejected in the United States as an undemocratic practice, later became an entrenched part of service economies despite its many inconsistencies. Similarly, her discussion of pet ownership extends beyond the sentimental narratives surrounding dogs to examine how economic structures and cultural histories shape our relationships with animals.
Bell’s conclusion resists the temptation to offer a grand theory, instead leaving readers with three closing thoughts: there is no single natural cultural frame, we think primarily in metaphors and we lie to ourselves. These insights do not neatly resolve the book’s themes but instead invite reflection, encouraging readers to scrutinise their own assumptions. Her humour is not merely an entertaining addition but an essential part of her analytical approach. By recognising the absurdity in cultural norms, she underscored the depth of their influence. Her footnotes, a mix of scholarly references and witty asides, further enhance the book’s conversational tone, making it feel like an engaging dialogue rather than a dense treatise.
I am not a stranger to ethnographies and anthropology, yet Silent but Deadly provided a refreshing lens on the taken for granted aspects of daily life. The influence of globalisation and the familiarity of certain common references make this an engaging read for a broad audience. This book is for anyone looking for a casual, entertaining and though-provoking read. It offers a glimpse into what binds us together as humans and what separates us as creatures of custom and habit. Not in the grand, existential sense, but through the small, peculiar habits and customs that shape our everyday existence. Additionally, Bell runs a blog under the same name, ‘Silent but Deadly,’ where she periodically posts stories that examine everyday behaviour. Her latest entry exploring the theme of ‘bathing, dirt and cleanliness.’ Much like the book, her blog serves as an entertaining anthropological tour through the big answers to life’s little questions.
Nikhil Kaithwas is a PhD scholar in anthropology at the University of Delhi. His research explores ancestor worship and memorialization among tribal communities in Southern Rajasthan, focusing on how ritual objects shape beliefs about death, memory, and spiritual presence in everyday life. In 2020, he completed his MPhil, studying how neoliberal economic shifts have transformed the work and social identity of Muslim barbers in Delhi. His broader interests include visual anthropology, material culture, and religious practices, with photography and storytelling as key tools in his ethnographic approach.
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